Mister T, Thank you for all you do. What are your thoughts about me printing business cards with the orange-papers web site address and giving them out? Do you have any objections? Someone told me the word authoress is sexist. These things are beyond me so I will just pass it on to you. I was pleased at how easy it was to use pay-pal to contribute to your work. I was told many years ago at AA meetings to put the price of one drink into the basket. I now say to your supporters to send the price of one drink to you on occasion. Iris there an easy way for me to p
Thank you again,
Hello again, Bob,
Of course you may print up cards with the Orange Papers URL and give them away. That sounds
like a good thing to do. And, if you are in a printing mood, I've also suggested printing sheets
of
the jokes,
and giving them away. (To the right audience, of course. Watch out. Some people totally pop
a cork when they see jokes poking fun at their religion.)
I do not see the word "authoress" as sexist. It is just the correct word to use.
There are lots of word pairs that reveal gender, like "actor — actress", and
I don't think that is sexist.
(Also "King — Queen", "Lord — Lady", "Baron — Baroness", etc.)
Some word pairs are now considered archaic and have fallen into disuse,
like "manager — manageress", and
"governor — governess", and "master — mistress".
Still, as far as I know, "author — authoress" is still the correct usage.
Have a good day and a Merry Christmas.
== Orange
DEC 1 They gave me the structure I needed coming homeless off the streets zonked out of my mind. But I'll be honest... a lot of stuff in PG, under Clancy's direction I didn't agree with. Not the AA way, but Clancy's way. I stuck it out and did it exactly their — Clancy's — way. But after 5 years... no matter how hard I tried having a normal life; getting real work, even with my BA and MFA,things kept crashing and burning. I didn't drink or use, but a real, normal life I wouldn't call it. It was only after I left LA — left PG — that 6 years later now, things are slowly going up. Many ups and downs in these 11 years... but I've done one thing more right than anything else: No matter what has happened — I have not taken a drink or used a drug. No matter what. And that is not because I won the lottery or married a beauty queen... or have all this outside stuff. It is not because I've networked or have had doors open for me. I saw too many relapses in my first few years in LA... and these were people with money; great cars; great outside success. I think a lot relapse... because they're not willing to do whatever it may take to stay clean and sober no matter what... like I did. I owe it all to my higher power... whatever that force is. But, it's not a human being and it's not a group. And I owe it to bringing the 12 steps into every part of my life — especially how I deal with people and life. There's a lot of giving up I do every day. But I am no longer a door mat for anyone like I might've been my first few years, doing everything other drunks ordered me to do... like I found WITH SOME — NOT ALL — in PG. My first year foundation is solid. No cracks in it. That's a big part in my new way of life. And I thank my higher power, not PG, every day. But, I thank PG for waking me up when I needed it, and when no one else did. All the best to you and yours. One day at a time. MARK11
Hi Mark,
Thank you for the letter, and congratulations on your sobriety. It's good that you got a grip
and quit drinking, and have kept yourself sober for so many years.
I see that you are convinced that somebody or something else made you
quit, and there is probably nothing that I can say that will make you see that the 12 Steps
are not good for your mental health.
So all that I can say is, have a good day and Merry Christmas. And good luck.
== Orange
I have many questions and comments. But I will only ask one question. As I don't wish to debate the effectiveness of AA or any other 12step program. Are you or have you ever thought of yourself as an alcoholic, "problem drinker" or addict (currently or formerly) ???
Thank you,
Hello JR,
The simple answer is, "yes".
You can read my history here:
But watch out for the definitions.
Alcoholics Anonymous routinely uses three or four different definitions of the word
"alcoholic", and mixes them up, with really muddies the water and confuses the issues.
Read the definitions here.
Now I have a question for you: Why don't you "wish to debate the
effectiveness of AA or any other 12step program"?
Do you believe that the failure rate of A.A. is really indefensible?
Have a good day.
== Orange
Here's another offspring for your snake-oil page, if you haven't seen it already. Here I thought I couldn't get a better paying job despite my efforts due to the economy... turns out it's because I'm powerless and insane, and need a higher power to do it for me. Keep up the good fight, Orange.
Hello again, Dennis,
Thanks for the link. That is really something else, isn't it?
"Poor-aholics"? "Under-earners Anonymous"?
So people are underpaid and poor because they
are sinners and need to do the 12 Steps and
confess and surrender to "Higher Power"?
Wow. This really is some toxic snake oil.
On the other hand, do they give you another sobriety coin every time you get a raise?
And, finally, thanks for the laugh. Every so often I need to be reminded that these hairless monkeys
are basically crazy.
Have a good day and a Merry Christmas.
== Orange
[More gosling photos below, here.]
I am the mother of 9 children. My husband who had been sober for over 13 years started drinking again 4 years ago. A year and a half ago he got involved in AA. He has stopped drinking but the teachings of AA and his over-involvement with AA is ruining our marriage. Since he found AA our life together has been a living nightmare. He stopped communicating with me, only communicating with his sponsor or others in the group and telling me that if I had a problem I needed to get into Al-Anon and get my own program going and my own sponsor to talk to. My husband left me this past week (with 6 children still at home), choosing his AA family over us. The L-rd led me to your website. I have found numerous books and publications that I would like to read myself and hopefully show the counselor who is trying to help us. But, some of the ones that seemed like they would be helpful do not have ISBN or Dewey #'s. Can you tell me how I can go about obtaining these particular publications? Any and all help would be greatly appreciated.
Blessings,
Hello Laura,
Thanks for your letter. I'm sorry to hear about your troubles.
The first place to look for information about books is in
the bibliography, here.
I list all of the ISBN numbers and Dewey numbers, if the books have one.
You can quickly find individual books by using your browser's built-in search function,
usually a slash. In Firefox, for instance, just type a slash and a little box opens at the
bottom of the window for you to type in key words.
So go to the bibliography page, and then search within it.
Most all books published after 1950 or 1960 have ISBN numbers; but before that,
the publishers had not invented the system yet. Then, you have to go by the author's name,
book title, publisher, and year of publication.
For finding rare old books, I have not found anything better than Worldcat.
Worldcat is something that the libraries use. It means something like "world catalogue".
Somehow, most all of the libraries in the USA and Canada are in it. That means universities,
and city and county libraries, and medical schools, and theological seminaries, and everything.
Exactly how the system is accessible to you differs from one library to another, so I would
go to your local city or county library, and ask for help. My usual routine was to use the
libraries' computers and get into their search system. Now, I have my own laptop, and get into
the library's catalogue through their web page. Both ways work just fine.
And if you don't have a library card,
definitely get one. Here, they are free to county residents.
In fact, even the inter-library loans are free. That is, if you want some rare old book or obscure book
that the local library does not have, you can request it through Worldcat. It usually takes
about two weeks, and you have the book — for free. (Isn't Big Government wonderful?)
That is how I got all of those rare old books about the Oxford Group and Moral Re-Armament.
(Yes, taxpayer-supported libraries helped to finance the research for the Orange Papers.)
You can also use the catalog of
Amazon.
That is often helpful too. Mind you, you don't have to
buy the book from them, but you can find it and get ISBN numbers or Dewey numbers, and publisher's
name and year, and all of that, from the listing that Amazon has for the book.
I have seen Amazon also have rare old books that are so rare that not even Worldcat had a listing.
Good luck, and I hope your life gets happier. So try to have a good day.
== Orange
Hi Orange, Found this on wikileaks Why would the US government make an IRAN success on twelve-step CLASSIFIED? The link http://213.251.145.96/cable/2010/02/10ASHGABAT245.html [Now a dead link.] also posted below Found it interesting,
Thanks
Hello Jason,
Thanks for the tip. Now that is interesting. I didn't know that Steppism had made such inroads
in Iran. I would have thought that the Islamic fundamentalists would strongly object to such
heresy and idolatry as "anything as your God, a light bulb, a motorcycle, a doorknob, a tree..."
I guess that the A.A. promoters must gloss that over and say that only Allah
is acceptable as the Higher Power.
Also guessing, I think that the reason that the Dept. of State classified that is:
they classify everything. It's just habit.
And they did have reason to protect the identity of their informant, whose name is
safely redacted in the released text.
I have my doubts about how "highly successful" the 12-Step programs have been in Iran.
It is easy to assume a cause-and-effect relationship where there is none.
Specifically, if Narcotics Anonymous is so highly successful, why do they have 150,000
addicts on government-approved Methadone?
The author of that cable did not supply any numbers to indicate how much 12-Step programs reduced
the problem, if they did at all. Maybe the 12-Step programs are only successful at recruiting
cult members.
This statement is actually quite intelligent and perceptive, in spite of the mangled grammer:
Unfortunately, the treatment is not intelligent. Neither Methadone nor
guilt-inducing 12-Step religion is appropriate treatment for depression.
I know that there are better medicines for depression than Methadone.
Then the report says that Iranians use alcohol much more than they do drugs.
So that means that they have a large number of alcoholics.
That does not sound like a highly successful program.
There is actually zero evidence that 12-Step programs have done anything good for Iran.
Have a good day now, and have a Merry Christmas.
== Orange
Hi Terry, Woohoo!!!! SMILE 'TIL IT HURTS: The Up With People Story opens in Portland on December 17. You can catch a screening at the Hollywood Theatre. 4122 N.E. Sandy Blvd., Portland Oregon. It's supposed to run for two consecutive weekends so perhaps you are in town? Also, please tell everyone you know as I think the film generates a lot of interesting discussion! You can check for details at http://www.hollywoodtheatre.org/engaging/index.html or on the smiletilithurts.blogspot.com website. I hope to have a Q&A by Skype. Please let me know if you can suggest ways to get the word out.
All the best,
Okay, Lee, will do.
READERS: You can also peruse the "Smile 'Til It Hurts" web site:
The "Up With People" show was of course the song-and-dance show that Moral Re-Armament did that
was popular in the 'seventies. You can read about it on my web page,
The Last Hurrah: Up With People.
The movie will be showing for two consecutive weekends, 6 days in all:
17-19 Dec., and 24-27 Dec.
And then of course it will continue to tour the country.
Have a good day.
== Orange
Hi Terry! Could you pleas add some of our Stinkin' Thinkin' stuff to your links? We're working on an outreach project to bring change to the addiction treatment industry, and yours is the loudest voice in the arena. Stinkin' Thinkin' Blog Stinkin' Thinkin' Outreach on YouTube http://www.youtube.com/user/SToutreach Once again... You are helping a lot of people! I can't thank you enough for helping to wake me from my trance, and escape the mind-trap. When I first left AA I struggled with that old inner stepper... I could always turn to your website... It's an excellent deprogramming tool. Thanks... Todd
Hi Todd,
Thanks for the thanks and the compliments, and yes, I'll give you a link.
Have a good day now, and a Merry Christmas.
== Orange
I would like to hear your "solution" to help the alcoholic who CANNOT stop drinking, fully recover to live a useful, purposeful, & fulfilling life? Please educate me, because I can use a good laugh... Sent via BlackBerry by AT&T
Hello Ashaziz,
First off, I reject your
hypothetical case of someone "who CANNOT stop drinking".
That is just the standard A.A. stereotype of "the alcoholic" that declares that alcoholics
are "powerless over alcohol" and cannot quit drinking without joining Alcoholics Anonymous.
Now if someone is badly addicted, then he needs detoxing in a detox center or hospital.
After that, there are a variety of treatments and aids available, all better than A.A.
Professors Reid K. Hester and William R. Miller (UNM, Albuquerque —
Center for Alcohol, Substance Abuse and Addictions, Dept. of Psychology,
University of New Mexico), rated treatment modalities by success rate.
Here are the results:
The most successful treatment is "Brief Intervention".
Notice how "Twelve-step facilitation" is so far down the list
that you have to look for it. It's number 37 out of 48.
Also notice how 12-Step treatment has a negative success rating
— the "Cumulative Evidence Score" is a minus 82, while
the best treatments are rated positive 390 and 189.
"Brief Intervention" consists of a real doctor talking to the
patient for usually less than one hour, questioning him about all of the
ugly details of his drinking and telling him that he will die if he doesn't
quit drinking. One time.
That's it. No long counseling sessions, no great guidance, no on-going
advice, no shoulder to cry on. And no 28-day treatment program. No years of A.A. meetings.
Just one "Dutch Uncle" session and it's over.
And that's the most effective thing going.
One of the least successful things going is Alcoholics Anonymous, which just
raises the rate of binge drinking in alcoholics, and
raises the death rate.
People who want a support group can find companionship in a variety of organizations that do less
harm than A.A., like SMART, SOS, Lifering, and Women For Sobriety.
Have a good day and a Merry Christmas.
== Orange
Orange, Will you be my sponsor? I've heard it said that sunlight is the best disinfectant. Found your sight and have been up all night basking in the sunlight of truth. I have been in and out of AA for over 20 years and have found it to beneficial but am getting tired of being accused of thinking too much. In all the years the thing which has kept me sober the longest was getting married to a mormon girl and having 4 kids. Ironically she died of addiction related issues three years ago and I have been unable to stay sober for more than several months at a time since. I keep going to AA and while I do get something out of it I am getting tired of a bunch of cigarette smoking automatons telling me that my thinking isn't that great and that self knowledge will avail me nothing and so I go back drinking. I quit smoking over 18 years ago after getting married and cant figure out why I cant seem to apply the same sort of will power to my drinking. Now I know I can, if I choose to. I think the bullshit about getting a sponsor and confessing my powerlessness to feed someones ego is one of the prime factors in my feeling depressed and is playing a major role in my choosing to drink again. Plus every time I do it doesn't get worse than before, but it is a lot worse than what choosing sobriety is. I want sobriety and I crave social interaction so I keep going back to AA and while I find some things I hear there work for me, they wont seem to let me take what I want and leave the rest. The mormons frankly are seeming more tolerant of my thinking for myself these days than are the AAs, but thats a tough fit as well. Anyhow, thank you for all of your hard work and research in hashing out the truth.... Its ironic that the AA coins say "to thine own self be true" but when I am immediately shamed by some old timer who thinks I want to hone in on one of his cigarette breathed 13th step prospects. Anyhow I could go on and on, but it is late, Suffice it to say I don't know if I will continue to go to AA, but if I do I will know that my sponsor is honesty and openmindedness and my mind sober is higherpowered enough to stay that way if I am willing. Thanks for the fresh air. Mark
Hello Mark,
Thank you for the letter. I'm sorry to hear about your troubles, and hope you are feeling better.
For the sober social group, there just might be a variety of choices available.
You will have to check to see what is available in your area.
Here is the list of the usual suspects:
It is also possible to find non-drinking clubs and organizations that range from the local
library's book club to hiking and adventure clubs. And mountain climbing and hang-gliding and
bungee jumping. Some of those things you would not dare to try drunk.
There are actually a lot of people who find happiness without alcohol.
They are around; it's just a matter of finding them.
Have a good day and a good life now. And Merry Christmas.
== Orange
Hi Orange, Sorry to bombard you with all this stuff but I'm going through all my old files and I keep finding it. So as long as I do I'll keep sending it on if that's OK? Attached are two pieces from the book "Living Sober" copyright 1975, 1998, by Alcoholics Anonymous World Services Inc., from its 39th printing in 2005. I don't think that you can use either whole piece but you can quote from them on your site? I'm not sure about copyright law.
Hi again, "iamnotastatistic",
Don't apologize for all of the stuff. This is interesting. I like getting it. And yes, I can
use these fragments under the "Fair Use" clause of the copyright act.
Quoting pieces for analysis and criticism is okay.
This is also interesting because
in the lawsuits
in Germany and Mexico, representatives of the
A.A. headquarters commmitted perjury in court and declared:
Finally, in regard to your opinion that A.A. members should be legally held accountable for dispensing harmful medical advice. I don't think that argument will fly. There is no contract between the newcomer and the A.A. member in regard to the advice dispensed. It is simply bad advice. Horribly bad in some instances but without any legal responsibility it seems. *"You can carry the message but not the alcoholic"* as A.A. regulars will say when a member commits suicide. *"They committed the most selfish act"* according to one A.A. member of 25yrs at my home group. Disgusting, degrading attitudes to suicide abound in A.A. Probably true. They will probably escape with technicalities and weasel words. Like, "We never promised you anything. Show me the contract." However, can medical/treatment professionals: doctors, psychologists, counselors, social workers, psychiatrists, etc., be held legally responsible for their recommendations to attend A.A.? I think so. If they are recommending A.A. as a method of treatment, or part of treatment, in a professional capacity then surely they must be bound by medical/ethical/legal principles? If so, then a law suit against a medical professional for malpractice for recommending A.A. attendance which resulted in either emotional trauma, abuse, suicide or attempted suicide would have to be fought and proved in court. It may be hard to argue but at least it would be debated in public and hopefully before a judge who would have to adhere to U.S. Constitutional Law and not merely "traditions." Why the trial lawyers are not all over this one I do not know? All it would take is one bad decision against a medical professional and that might scare any other professionals from recommending A.A. as a treatment method. Don't you think? Just ideas.... I also don't know why lawyers are not all over that one. It sure looks like some money for someone to take.
Keep up the good fight, *Attachments:*
Living_Sober-Admission_of_the_Anti-Medication_stance.pdf
Living_Sober-AA_admits_that_Bill_wrote_first_11_Ch_of_Big_Book.pdf
You have a good day too, and Merry Christmas.
== Orange
who are you???
Hello Paul,
I've answered that question many times. Look
here:
Who are you?.
Have a good day now.
== Orange
Date: Tue, December 7, 2010 12:20 am (answered 17 December 2010)
Message not printable
*Attachments:*
Hello Barry,
I've answered that question many times. Look
here:
Who are you?.
Have a good day now.
== Orange
In this picture, the division between the two families that make up the "Family of 9" is
obvious. One couple has 7 babies, and one has 2.
[The story of Carmen continues here.]
A. Orange,
I was recently reading some of your articles about Alcoholics Anonymous and Bill
Wilson, among other things, and wanted to share my experience with "the program"
with whoever might (or might not) read this e-mail. Before I even start with the AA
story, I feel I should mention that I was addicted to drugs, but that hasn't been a
problem for years. I accomplished this with the help of a close friend and some
serious dedication to my cause. No treatment programs or self help groups. I did
keep drinking though, and that was looking a whole lot like a problem.
I went to AA at the suggestion of a long time friend. I don't know what he said to
me, because I was trashed, and I showed up to my first meeting that way. I went
because I wanted to get my buddy off my back, and because obviously I had a drinking
problem. I didn't plan on quitting the booze, I just thought if I hung out with a
bunch of drunks for a while, I'd be able to drink normally. I continued to go to
meetings for a short while until my car battery died. In truth, the club I attended
meetings at is within fairly easy walking distance of my home. Even before I decided
I would not continue to attend AA, I'd decided on three things that ran contrary to
the general program: 1. No higher power for me 2. I had no interest in working the
steps 3. I didn't want to be in that same room 25 years from now (and we did have
those guys). In retrospect, having established those ground rules was more or less a
rejection of AA, although I continued to attend meetings. I don't regret that I did,
however I'm equally glad I stopped and that I didn't spend any great deal of time
involved with AA. In the end, it was the Big Book that sealed the deal. I had my
doubts, but the constant mention of God, Creator, etc. reinforced my fears. So did
the chapter "We Agnostics". The newest version reads like this "As long as you
believe in an omniscient, interventionist deity named God, and kneel to pray to him
constantly, your higher power can be anything". There's also a bit that explains a
man is only ready for AA after he's given up on all reasonable, rational and logical
methods of achieving sobriety. That sure as shit wasn't me.
Anyway, I wanted to thank you for the Orange Papers. Because although I was happy
with my decision, and was still quite sober, I couldn't shake the nagging guilt
that'd been instilled in me in such a short time. I mean, here I was sober and happy
with that fact, and I was still thinking "But I'm not going to meetings, I'm sure to
fail any day now". Of course, my AA brain, which has replaced my Alcoholic brain,
tells me that if your very well presented, organized and articulate articles make
sense to me, they must be wrong, you must be diseased also. You should probably seek
help... a specific kind of help, involving God and some steps.
Look forward to reading more of the website,
Hello Taylor,
Thanks for the letter, and thanks for the thanks. I'm glad to hear that you are doing well.
And yes, isn't it insidious how
they plant ideas and phobias
in your head that make you feel like you cannot live without them?
What a dirty trick.
Yes, that's why it's a cult.
Oh well, have a good day anyway.
== Orange
[The next letter from Taylor is here.]
I was wondering if you could tell me if your article is peer
reviewed. I happen to be a successful participant in A.A. and remained
there for the first 15 years of my sobriety. I have remained sober now
for 21+ years and I would like to explore this "spontaneous remission"
you speak of as possibly being true that I was going to get sober
anyway. However, I would tend to disagree in that A.A. in the
beginning did assist me in losing the obsession to drink.
I have a blog:
Mylifeafteraa.blogspot.com
Jack B.
Hello Jack,
The term "peer-reviewed" usually refers to scientific journals,
where other doctors or scientists
will read articles before publication, and decide whether the article
makes enough sense to
publish. Obviously, the Orange Papers is not a medical journal.
However, the web site most assuredly is "peer reviewed" in
the sense that thousands or hundreds
of thousands of fellow "alcoholics" or "ex-alcoholics"
have read it, and commented, and both
approved and criticized it.
Read the letters section.
Have a good day now.
== Orange
P.S.: The information about spontaneous remission is
here.
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