You must be one of the most brilliant authors I have ever read. To think you would spend this much time or in your case probably very little (because of your intelligence) trying to stop people from using any means at all to stay sober or clean. What would you achieve by stopping one person from becoming sober? Living with an alcoholic and an addict, I would support any program they were to believe in. You clearly have never felt the abuse of an alcoholic or addict. Why in God's name would someone as brilliant as yourself not spend your time helping to find cures and helping people. I cannot imagine where you energy would lead you. I am so jealous of someone as brilliant as yourself. My son does not believe in AA but I take him for my sake. He is very intelligent and has nothing left. I guess he has someone like you to fuel his argument. I know many AA members who as often as they fail will always keep trying. And of course there are many brilliant people as yourself. I have tried to quit smoking many times and have always failed for lack of will power. Please excuse my lack of study to respond with any intelligence. Who ever you are and now that my pathetic son thinks of you as a genius use what you have to save one life. You are truly blessed. A not so brilliant mom.
Hello Sylvia,
Thank you for the letter. Unfortunately, you have made one wrong assumption, and
that is that A.A. actually works to make people get sober. It does not.
(Look here.)
I am not
"trying to stop people from using any means at all to
stay sober or clean".
I am trying to keep people from being deceived and hurt by
quack medicine that does not work.
When you say,
"My son does not believe in AA but I take him for my sake", you are
revealing that A.A. is a religion, not a treatment program for alcohol abuse.
A religion requires that you believe. Medicine does not. I have never had a doctor
ask me,
"Do you believe in Western medicine? Do you believe in antibiotics?"
Never. Not once, ever. The doctor just writes out a prescription, and
I take the pills, and they work, and I get better. Beliefs are irrelevant.
When they tell you that
you must believe in order for the cure to work, that is a
dead give-away of a con artist shoving a fraud on you.
(And of course, when the cure doesn't work, it is supposedly your fault because you
didn't believe, or you didn't pray enough, or you didn't "work the program" right.)
Speaking of beliefs, you said,
"I would support any program they were to believe in."
I would not. I would support any program or treatment that really works to cure addiction.
Erroneous beliefs are worse than worthless. They waste peoples' time and keep
them from getting something that works.
You also said,
"You clearly have never felt the abuse of an alcoholic or addict."
Alas, I grew up the son of an abusive mean alcoholic sergeant father. And then I
drank too much for nearly 20 years myself. I know all about it. That's why I
support anything that works to cure or alleviate alcohol addiction and alcohol abuse.
And that is why I am so opposed to quackery that is just a fraud that does not help
my friends.
And we do spend a lot of time here talking about what works to help alcoholics and
addicts. The lists start
here.
Have a good day and a Merry Christmas.
== Orange
Orange, I don't want to drag you into a political debate, but rather to ask you a question. It is somewhat off topic, but it is in direct reference to something you said in an essay. I have enough of a sense that you're an honest man to believe that "the truth" matters to you, and that you wouldn't let your political leanings influence you over the raw truth. So, I would like to ask you something. First, a little background. In Nov — Dec of 2000, I was working as a high level Software QA Engineer on the West Coast. Actually, I was the head of a team on an important product (tens of millions at stake) in an important division, in a world class semiconductor company. In my role as such, there were times when I had to be on the job late into the evening, for weeks on end. Nov — Dec, 2000 was once such time. Usually, during these times, I spent much of my time waiting for a new build from the development team. I had a lot of free time. This period happened to be the time of the Famous Florida Recount in Gore v Bush. Because I had so much free time, I spent it all reading and following every single court case and detail of the case. I had a pile of papers on my desk a foot high. I printed everything. Plus, I recorded all the major cases: Judge Saul's case, The Florida Supreme Court rulings, and the final U.S. Supreme Court Rulings. I knew every single detail in this chronology (I wasn't just listening to news accounts, I was following the legal trail documents): http://www.infoplease.com/ipa/A0884144.html So, whenever I would hear someone say "Bush stole the 2000 election" or that "the US Supreme Court 'picked' Bush", I always knew for myself, based on my own personal observation and study that nothing of the kind ever happened. What did happen is that Bush won, even though Gore and his team fought desperately to find some way to "harvest" votes in those heavily Democrat counties. The final Supreme Court Case made perfect sense if you read everything along the way. They simply said that, "The Court contends that the recount was not treating all ballots equally, and was thus a violation of the Constitution's equal protection and due process guarantees." and "The Supreme Court of Florida would be required to set up new voting standards and carry them out in a recount." and if "manual recounts in counties with large numbers of undervotes are to be recounted, using new standards, that the whole state had to be recounted using those standards" and the conclusion of others was that "Since the Court makes its ruling just hours before the deadline, it in effect ensures that it is too late for a recount." This lead to the inevitable conclusion in the Gore camp, that Bush won, and it was over. There was no time left, so in spite of the fact that they didn't like it, they accepted it. They had no choice. Now my question: In your essay "How to Deprogram Your Own Mind" you say:
"Powerful stock-holders similarly muzzled the New York Times, and kept it from reporting how Gov. Jeb Bush rigged the Presidential election in Florida in 2000, so such problems are everywhere. (Jeb did it by removing about 60,000 honest black people from the voter registration lists, claiming that they were "felons".)" Ok, I will concede to you that if that is true, that is a damning indictment on Bush's victory. I've never heard that before. Those 60,000 votes would surely have sealed the deal for Gore. But how do you know that? Is there really concrete proof of that? Could that be proven in a court of law? I know this isn't the main purpose or subject of your site, so I would certainly understand if you don't want to open this door in your public forum. Also, since it really is off topic, I wouldn't be terribly upset if you just ignore it. I just happened to be fascinated by that fact, and this question: Is it really known to some that Jeb Bush did this? That's mind-boggling to me. Thanks for taking the time to read this, R.J.
Hi Richard,
Thank you for a good question. There is a lot of evidence that can be proven in
a court of law, but there is very little political will to do so.
No "political capitol", you know. "It's over."
Congress passed a law
that will supposedly keep it from happening again, and then went on to other
worries. But improper purges happened again in several states in the 2004 election.
Note that many publications covered the story later, like in the following
year, after the election had already been stolen, and GWB was sworn in.
Greg Palast, an American who corresponds for the BBC, said that he was able to get his
stories of investigations of corruption in the Florida election published in London during
the controversy,
but not in the USA. The article by Palast below was published in February 2001.
Neither the New York Times nor the Washington Post covered the story during the
election. Nor did any other major US newspaper. Nor did any TV network news.
It was like a blackout.
The New York Times finally published an article telling the story in July 2004.
The Washington Post got around to it in May 2001.
The Salon article below (second item) is the only one I've found that was published while
the election and vote count and Supreme Court controversy was going on.
Examine these articles:
About the Supreme Court decision, may I recommend:
Vincent Bugliosi gained fame as the prosecutor in the Charles Manson trials.
And as a good lawyer, he rips the Supreme Court's arguments to shreds.
He also rips apart Gore's lawyer, and calls the guy incompetent.
Now about
the statement
that owners of the New York Times kept it from covering the voter purge
story during the election,
how I wish I had put a footnote in there.
I don't remember at the moment where I got that. I shall have to investigate.
Oh, and if you want a current hot issue, I just ran into articles that revealed that
Tamiflu is a fraud. It seems that Roche (a Swiss pharmaceutical company) faked the
test data that shows that Tamiflu works on the flu. Complete fraud. The marketing and PR
guys at Roche wrote the supposedly "scientific" results.
Conveniently, most all of the test results that would show whether Tamiflu really works
are "lost".
The U.S. government bought one and a half billion dollars worth of Tamiflu.
By the way, former Secretary of Defense Donald Rumsfeld is a major stockholder in the Tamiflu patent.
Do you suppose that it is just a coincidence that they just recalled a batch of
Swine Flu vaccine because tests showed that it was ineffective?
Have a good day and a Merry Christmas.
== Orange
Date: Fri, December 18, 2009 12:26 pm (answered 19 December 2009) Hi A.Orange, Thanks for all the info and the links on Florida's Gore v Bush battle. There's quite a lot to digest there, but I do see where you're coming from. I'm not so sure this rises to the level of something that would be provable in a court of law, but the "weight of the evidence", at least as far of this collection of articles go, does bend in your favor. By the way, I found a reference to 50,000 to 100,000 possibly disenfranchised ex-felons (people who supposedly had their rights restored in other states, and moved to Florida) here: http://www.thenation.com/doc/20010205/palast There's just one problem, though. A lot of the sources you used are decidedly left leaning (doesn't rule out all of them, though), so I have to take some of it with a "what else would they say" grain of salt. But this one from The Nation, would be way at the bottom of the list of those I might give credence to. They would have to prove it to me in a court of law before I would believe them. And even then, I still wouldn't believe them, but I would concede (like a good American sport) that I lost.
I know that some of them are left-leaning. The right-leaning media, on the
other hand, just don't cover the story at all. They want to forget
all about it. So we are stuck with what we can get.
And some of them, like the New York Times and Washington Post,
wouldn't even publish the story when it could have hurt George W. Bush.
So I can't consider them left-leaning, in spite of the complaints of
some Tea Parties.
Some facts in the case are undeniable, like that the purges occurred,
and many innocent people were prevented from voting. And instructing
the data company to purge people whose names were an 80% match to
a felon is at least incompetent, if not blatantly illegal.
Then the big legal question is whether the whole thing was a deliberate
scheme to disenfranchise certain groups of voters, or just incompetence.
It is more than suspicious when huge numbers of blacks (who were voting
for Gore) got purged, but large numbers of Latinos (who were voting
for Bush) did not get purged. The NAACP won a lawsuit on this issue,
but because they settled the case, the results were sealed and we can't
read the terms of the settlement.
Regarding Vincent Bugliosi, yes I'm very familiar with him and his work, but I don't know if I'd trust him as far as I can throw him. I saw him on TV on numerous occasions talking about this subject, and my wife and I had a very strong sense that he was full of crap, and that he had some hidden agenda. As always though, I could be wrong. Personally, I cannot vouch for him one way or the other either, but I found his legal arguments in that book convincing, and troubling. I'm not the least bit surprised about the Tamiflu stuff. I've been saying for years that history is going to look back on this era and proclaim the Pharmaceutical Industry mass murderers, and some of the most evil people in our nation's, and the world's history. I'm firmly convinced that had my brother merely talked to someone like Peter Breggin M.D. or some other "talking psychiatrist", instead of taking his "meds" (i.e., crap) over the course of his lifetime that he would still be alive today. There are thousands of stories that back that statement at: http://www.drugawareness.org/
Sorry to hear about your brother. And yes, I also have to consider
the pharmaceutical industry as corrupt, and occasionally very evil.
There is just such a long history of faked tests of medicines,
suppressed and hidden results (when the results were negative),
and illegally pushing drugs on inappropriate
patients (like children for whom the drugs have not been approved).
Still, I'm not anti-medications, just anti-corruption.
Personally, I believe in "whatever works". If herbal cures work,
great. Or acupuncture or yoga or whathaveyou. Or psychotherapy. Or
chemically-manufactured pharmaceutical drugs.
Whatever works.
But of course we need valid unbiased tests to determine what really
works. Faked tests are unacceptable, and illegal, and grossly immoral.
People who fake medical tests deserve a special place in Hell.
Thanks again. Take care and have a Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year, Richard D.
You have a good day and a Merry Christmas too.
== Orange
Date: Sat, December 19, 2009 10:26 am (answered 20 December 2009) Hi Agent, I'm not usually sentimental about songs, but somehow this particular song seems very appropriate: Richard D
Hi again, Richard,
Thanks for the thought, and the memory.
Have a good day and a Merry Christmas.
== Orange
[The story of Carmen continues here.]
I still check out your site from time to time (I've written you before) I enjoy reading the new letters postings. I saw this video on the drinking habits of monkeys on this one island and thought you might find the parallels between "us and them" interesting:
Alcoholic Vervet Monkeys Good to see you are still at it. I also enjoy the geese updates. Bill
Hi Bill,
Thanks for the link.
Wow. Now that is interesting. That's the most blatant example
that I've seen of alcoholic animals. And I think it does give
a glimpse into human nature. The parallels are obvious and
striking.
What is particularly revealing is the fact that the monkey
population has
the same percentages of alcoholics and tea-totalers as humans do.
That points to a genetic factor, as there is no way to argue that
those monkeys and humans have the same environments, society, or childhood
upbringing.
Have a good day and a Merry Christmas.
== Orange
Some people just don't get it. (The A.A. Program) They are just far too intelligent to be helped. There are those unfortunates. They seemed to have been born that way. The A.A. program only works if you want it to. It works for me. The quality of my life in the past year of the A.A. program has been far better than all the preceding 50 years before it. Am I just being fooled by the program? If so, I will continue to live this dream, for it is far better than anything I have ever known before it! I'd rather live in the dream than die in the nightmare. Living life happy, joyous, and free. With a very real and true honesty, openness, and willingness to do so. I found through the A.A. program that alcohol wasn't my problem, living life was my problem and I drank alcohol to avoid life. I don't have to drink today. I choose not to drink today and that is a miracle today! It's amazing to me when I come across someone who proposes an intelligent argument as to why the program does not work how far they actually went in the program to form the opinions and manipulate the numbers that they do for their arguments. And the very un-ingenious ploy of using one of A.A.'s so called 'own members' to argue their point. Step 2: "Came to believe a power greater than myself could restore me to sanity." I was never insane. When I drank I did crazy and insane things as a result of drinking alcohol. The insanity of the disease is in believing no matter how far down I have gone in my life as a result of drinking alcohol; that I can continue to drink with false impunity! Doing the same things over and over and over again, expecting different results every time. That is the insanity talked about in step 2, pure and simple. If I place my hand on a hot stove and burn it, do I continue to do so expecting different results other than my hand being burned every time? That is the insanity! The scoffers can scoff, the whiners can whine, the complainers can complain all they want to about the program. If they hang around long enough in the program they too just might find the honesty, openness, and willingness to really get it. I too was once a scoffer of the A.A. program for many, many years. I just couldn't get it. Come to find out that it was so, so simple. I really had to want it before I could really get it. I've been to more rehabs and detox centers than I can count or care to remember and none of them worked as well as the A.A. program. The only requirement of A.A. is an honest desire to quit drinking. NOT..."what type of insurance do you have and if you don't have any, we can't help you!"
Hello Matt,
Thank you for the letter.
Well, starting at the top, stupidity (lack of intelligence)
is not an asset in quitting bad
habits. Period. I should actually add that item
—
"some people are too intelligent"
—
to the list of
A.A.'s Biggest Lies, because it is an often-repeated slogan, but
it is quite untrue.
You say,
"The Program" does not work at all. People quit drinking when
they really want to quit; otherwise, they don't.
It is good that you quit drinking, and I'm glad that you are feeling good.
You did that, not any program.
Congratulations on your sobriety.
I'm really happy to hear that you are "Living life happy, joyous, and free."
It is so much easier to feel good when you aren't poisoning yourself with
alcohol, isn't it?
This is garbled:
The meaning is unclear. I can only guess that you don't like statistical
analyses of A.A. that reveal the dropout rate and the failure rate.
And quoting ex-members who describe their experiences in A.A. is totally valid.
Then you wrote:
Doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results
is only one of the "insanities" that Bill Wilson wrote about in
the Big Book.
How about the
"whiskey and milk" drinker who suffered from
"strange mental blank spots"?
How about the people who were supposedly unable to resist the first drink,
no matter what kind of a "defense they put up"?
Sponsors often use slogans like
"Your best thinking got you here"
to
tell
newcomers that they are insane and can't think right.
There is much more to the "insanity" of
Step 2 than you are admitting.
The "insanity" in Step 2 is why the newcomer is supposed to
"surrender" his mind, his will, and his life in Step 3.
Then you wrote:
You want to be honest and open? Oh good, very good. Please honestly and
openly answer this question:
Out of each 1000 newcomers to A.A., how many will pick up a one-year
sobriety medallion a year later?
RE:
No, actually, there is at least one more requirement that you have already
listed: You must dump your intelligence into the trash can and become
a stupid believer.
Oh well, have a good day and a Merry Christmas.
== Orange
I could not agree with you more. I have been in and out of AA for a little over 10 years and these are exactly the reasons I never stayed. I have recently gone through a very traumatic relapse and am now done with it all. 5% for me this time :-) . I appreciate your work. Michael D. RE: http://www.orange-papers.info/orange-effectiveness.html#Harvard_Mental
Hi Michael,
Thanks for the letter. I hope you are doing well. You may fall into the
"fortunate five percent", but I think that this time it
might be 100% for you.
Have a good day and a good life and a Merry Christmas.
== Orange
This site is totally amazing. I can't believe all of the information you put together. I must commend you on all your hard work. Thank God someone as honest and committed as yourself is here to state the facts about how dangerous AA really is. I was lost for years in the program, but I never really knew what was wrong, until I read your site. Now it all makes sense to me and I am an avid fan. I have erased all my AA contacts and I don't answer their fone calls. I don't need their phony religion clouding my mind and judgement Thankyou for setting the record straight. Sent from my iPhone
Hello Joe,
Thank you for the letter and the compliments. I'm glad to hear that you are
feeling better.
So have a good day and a Merry Christmas.
== Orange
Hi there Orange. I read with some interest as well as some irritation your entire blog. While there are many problems with AA and some people who DO treat it as a sort of cult, there are a vast and silent number of folks who actually get good from it. It is not some evil empire created by a Hitler worshiping maniac. While many of your premises seem well reasoned, you roam off into speculation and fantasy on many points. In November, 2009 I passed 23 years clean, sober and tobacco free. Yes I quit cocaine, alcohol and cigarettes all at once. Yes it was hell on earth. Instead of relying on a single program such as AA to fix me up I lucked upon a (now defunct) Drug treatment program called Coke Enders which took a holistic approach to drug and alcohol addiction. The actual inpatient portion of the program was one week. However the outpatient portion of the program was massive. It required that I attend AA meetings of one sort or another 7 days a week for the first Year. I also had to change my diet, do regular exercise including weight lifting and aerobics, do individual and group therapy every single week for 5 years and actively worked out all my problems which had landed me in addcition in the first place. Of the 21 people in my group, 12 of us are clean and sober to this day. Guess that holistic approach works :>)
Hello Martin,
Congratulations on your sobriety.
Around the 5 year mark, I suddenly quit even thinking about drinking, drug use and smoking and have never looked back and never will....and yes I will say never. :>) I haven't been to an AA meeting in about 18 years now but still look back on my days at the meetings fondly. I made many close friends there who supported me through the first very rough years. I DID receive the unconditional love and friendship at my meetings that they talk about. My sponsor was a very decent and compassionate man and a good friend as well. He later went back to school and got his phd in psychiatry and works with addicts to this day. There is no simple way to quit and stay sober. Nothing simplistic like Nancy Reagan's "Just Say No". Unless you actively work on resolving the issues in your life which drove you to addiction you will never rid yourself of the possibility of relapse. You will always be what the folks in AA term a "Dry Drunk" Are you assuming that people who do not go to A.A. do not also work on their "other issues"? The people that I know do a lot of work. Your use of statistics on more people dying in AA than out of it are pure fabrication. Simply put ...HUGE numbers of alcoholics die every single day out of AA but aren't reported in statistics because they die from a variety of liver, kidney , heart and other ailments caused by alcoholism. These folks aren't counted as dead alcoholics ...because they NEVER admitted to themselves much less anyone else that they were Alcoholics in the first place.
Whoa! Hold on right there. I don't believe that I ever said anything like
that more people die of alcoholism in A.A. than outside of A.A. I wouldn't
make such a statement for the reasons that you just listed.
In fact,
I just recently,
in another letter,
explained why a fellow was seeing
so few deaths from alcoholism — telling him that the deaths were masked by
things like lung cancer or heart attacks.
Now I have said:
The folks that come into AA have admitted that they are alcoholics. Sorry, but that isn't necessarily true either. Lots of people are coerced into A.A. meetings by everything from the judge at a traffic court to a treatment program to family and employers. Many of those coerced people are not admitting anything. Many of the people who come to AA are on their last legs and AA is a hail mary pass to try and save their lives. Some are just too far gone and die anyway due to too many years on the bottle. So some people do choose to quit drinking and save their own lives, and some don't. It's been that way since the Egyptians invented beer 5000 years ago. That doesn't have anything to do with Alcoholics Anonymous. I was one of those that barely lived long enough to get sober. In my first week of inpatient treatment, the doctor on staff was gravely concerned that I would die at the program. I was 6 feet tall and weighed 110 pounds to give you a vague idea of my condition. Saying someone died because they were in AA is like saying someone died because they were a Republican or an Eagle scout. Those folks that die while in AA didn't die as a result of trying to get sober in AA they died because they had pushed their bodies beyond the limit. Far more undiagnosed alcoholics die from addiction than have ever died while trying to get sober in AA. Also, just curious ...if I die tomorrow with 23 years sobriety...does that make me one more of the people who died in AA? :>) When I say that people have died because of A.A., I am talking about things like people being told not to take their doctor-prescribed medications, and then dying from untreated medical ailments, or committing suicide. Although a good case can be made that more people die because they are driven to relapse by A.A. Teaching people that they are powerless over alcohol, and have "no defense" against the first drink is guaranteed to cause big troubles. Also saying more people quit alcoholism out of AA than in it is just pure rampant speculation. There are NO statistics whatsoever on how many alcoholics just quit on their own. The Harvard Medical School disagrees with you. Why don't you write to them and tell them that they don't know what they are talking about? Primarily because alcoholics rarely if ever think of themselves as alcoholics and even if they do, they never just voluntarily tell someone collecting statistics that they are. That is lame. You think that the only way to collect statistics about alcoholics is to ask them if they are alcoholics? Part of the problem of alcoholism is the art of denial to yourself that you have a problem in the first place. Ask any stranger that drinks in a bar if they are an alcoholic and they will tell you no. Flat no. They always have a friend that drinks more than they do and they don't think their friend is an alcoholic. Again, that is a lame argument. Researchers collect statistics about alcohol abuse from everything from hospital records to traffic fatalities to court records to research studies of drinking patterns. Admittedly there are some folks that just quit, but to make a claim that they comprimise the majority of clean and sober people is pure sophistry and wishful thinking. The great majority of us who have long term sobriety put a LOT of effort and time into it.
And that is a subtle cultish game of one-upmanship. So your sobriety is better than
other people's sobriety because you work at it more?
You cannot grade sobriety like levels of spirituality. Sobriety is very simple:
either you consume alcohol, or you don't.
Admittedly , there are lots of folks in AA who spout Cliches and maxims at any given opportunity and look down their 5 year sobriety noses at one year sobriety people. There are AA tyrants and AA assholes and AA compulsive obsessives and any other term you can come up with ...just like there are in regular society and in about the same ratio give or take an asshole or two. :>) There are far more people in AA who are caring, kind, compassionate and supportive at least in my experience. I am sorry if your own experience of the program so embittered you that you felt compelled to make it your life's work to try and blacken every aspect of a program that has helped so many folks. That is minimalization and denial. There is no evidence that A.A. has "helped so many". The evidence is that it has harmed more than it has helped. A.A. doesn't get people sober, it doesn't raise the sobriety rate, it just raises the death rate. That isn't helping people. Based on your replies to all the other mail you have gotten that I read, I know you will read my letter and dismiss it out of hand with a have a nice day reply. I however read your entire blog with an open mind and willingly acknowledge that you do have some points and that blindly following ANY principles without question is a dangerous thing. Most of us in AA however recognized that the Big book is no more pure unmitigated truth than the Holy Bible is. Knowing that however does not make AA useless nor does knowing that about the Bible make me any less of a Christian. I am not willing to toss out the baby with the bathwater. There is a lot of Good in AA as well.
Well, if you have read my "entire blog" (that isn't a blog), then what are
you going to do to fix the problems of the rapists in
the Midtown Group and the Pacific Group, while you are being so spiritual?
What are you doing to stop sponsors from killing their sponsees by telling
them not to take their medications?
It's easy to claim to be spiritual when you don't have to actually do anything
to stop wrong-doing in your organization.
As part of my changed approach to life, I don't carry anger with me anymore. If something upsets me I address it immediately and then I am done with it. Having written my letter to you, I am done with the things that upset me about your blog. I have for years had my long sought peace and happiness with life . I hope you have as well. Martin
Okay, so you have learned some anger management. Good.
And here it is, just like you predicted: "Have a good day and a Merry Christmas."
== Orange
Agent Orange Cult, What AA has going for them is a great system of distribution, cant you hijack that and replace the BS with stuff that works from e.g. letter 133? Do you use socialization with other sober persons as part of your staying sober plan? Are you indeed sober still or using in moderation (you do encourage asking questions)? Best regards, Thor F. H.
Hello Thor,
Thank you for the letter. I don't think that I need to found an organization,
because there are already several good ones around. I think it will work
better if we just support and grow them.
Here is the list.
They really do know just about
everything that I know.
Over the years, I have really thought about starting up a
"good sobriety cult" that
would harness the cultish energy and esprit de corps of A.A. or N.A.,
and encourage people to stay clean and sober. But the problem with cults
seems to be inherent in the structure and style of the group. Cults get weird,
they become corrupt, they go bad. That just seems to happen so often.
Both
Synanon
and
The People's Temple
were at one time considered great
organizations, God-sends that got many people off of drugs and alcohol. But
the cultish structure won out and the leaders went crazy and took their
organizations with them.
That is happening
in A.A. now, too. I mean, they were always cultish,
but now it's getting worse, with officially sanctioned sexual exploitation
and a strong heirarchical power structure leading up to the new gurus, and
empire-building by taking over neighboring groups.
Personally, I don't use socialization with other people to stay sober.
I haven't been to any kind of sobriety meeting in four or five years, now.
If
anything, I use socialization with geese, especially the cute little goslings,
as my sobriety group.
But the truth is, I really stay sober just by not drinking alcohol.
I remember what it did to me, and I don't want to go back to that kind
of suffering again, so I am doing other things with my life now.
You may ask about my drinking. It's quite alright, and I know that some
people are very curious about how well I am doing.
The answer is simple: I totally abstain from alcohol and tobacco — not
a single sip or puff in 9 years. (I also don't do any other drugs,
either, other
than kick-ass Espresso coffee.) I have to do it that way because I
am one of those people who cannot moderate on either alcohol or
tobacco. Once I start down that slippery slope, there are no limits.
It's all or nothing. It's like instant readdiction.
So I choose to have none of that pain and suffering in my life
any more, and I'm quite happy with the
decision, and the resulting lifestyle.
Have a good day and a Merry Christmas.
== Orange
Hi Agent, I want to tell you about an observation I made regarding the difference between the 30 day rehab I did in '85 vs. the one I did this year, and ask you if you have a generalization that explains it. They were both 12 Step A.A. based, but there are some significant differences.
I'm sure I could think of more, but you get the idea. What do you make of this? Is there anything you can think of that summarizes these differences briefly? R.J.
Hello R.J.,
Thank you for the letter and a good question. Just offhand,
I don't know the answers there. Perhaps the readers have some ideas.
It is possible that the two different treatment centers were just
being run by different people in very different ways, or it is possible
that you are seeing a trend towards mindless fluff.
The fact that you saw so many court-ordered people recently is
certainly problematic. There are a bunch of people who make big
money from all of those coerced patients, and they do everything
they can to sell the myth of successful treatment, and to encourage
the courts to send more victims their way.
The slogan "Treatment Works!" is such a scam.
About the treatment center using a Terence Gorski book as their
manual:
Personally, I wouldn't bet my sobriety on a book by Gorski.
I've commented on his writings several times:
Have a good day and a Merry Christmas.
== Orange
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