Date: Thu, September 3, 2009 3:27 pm (answered 16 November 2009)
From: "El Salvador"
Subject: An Online Work Steps or Die group..... I am out.
First I received some real weird responses to my share on an online
"recovery" blog where one could state their opinion..I talked about a
Psychologist, member of AA, who once told me to stop taking my meds
and "Work Steps go to more meetings" a year later wound up in 2 mental
hospitals, finally properly dx ed and felt like the scum of the earth
when I returned to my home groups. I "slipped"!
Did not realize this a "Work the Steps or Die",
and I am a bitter nasty
old dry drunk to them, huh? Think I have great sense of humor. Most
people like me. Again I learn to avoid toxic people, relax and let go.
I am not an "AA basher", just that the Fellowship I knew for years, (I
don't use word "program" I am not a computer...nor robot) has radicaly
changed. I don't live in the USA any more, never was a "puritan" and
know in my own heart I am free. Often when I travel I attend Ex Pat
English language AA, to network with sober people, rather than being
alone in a bar. Thanks
You keep up your good work... Did not send this reply to the online
group, wrote it for ME.
.
PS any of you zombie culties
members of the Midtown Group in DC? Just asking.
The Fellowship... not "Program"... FELLOWSHIP OF MEN AND WOMEN.... in the
many tiny in membership, humongous in love and service International
English speaking AA and NA 12 Step meetings I attended overseas was
support I needed not only to stay sober and to COPE, not squawking
about what "Step" I was on or quoting from a BB. That's for some, not
for me. I am a people person — love, service, unity. I live in the
developing world, have been through wars, witnessed genocide, been to and
through Hell many times and made a U Turn, am still here, a survivor and
pain in the ass. Sober today.
Judge me, judge yourselves first and hope you never ever confront me
with any of your OWN bs face to face. Yep I got PTSD. Some of Vets,
most draftees were spit on and called Baby Killers when we came home.
Yeah, once in the worst part of L.A. some gang members gamme Shelter,
cuz I was a "gringo" who spoke Spanish and knew history and culture of
Mexico.
First of all, received that weird reply from some kind of pervert,
they try and Trigger you. I started out in "AA" 34 years ago and years
later, like many in recovery, moved on to alternative modalities,
asked questions, and continued to do service, including Medevacs in
rural conflict areas in Central America as a volunteer, driving
terminally ill disadvantaged persons with not a penny in their pocket
to hospitals and clinics. Babies were born in my vehicle, luckily
brought relatives who mids-wived along.
I and some other classmates
were abused by the same pediatrician on the early 1950s, the affair
was covered up, the doctor just asked to leave town.
I heard later and
after my symptoms started, as well as the others in our school "group
of 5 sickies" they called us. After my Dad found out, he went into a
depression and started drinking every night, taking out his issues on
me. My, Mom, an immigrant to US, her life saved by a Consul of El
Salvador in Europe during WW2, did not drink but had heavy emotional
issues when younger, raging temper one minute, loving the next.
I
attended an Ivy League University on partial scholarship in 1964-65,
however dropped out, drinking, low self esteem issues, then got
drafted. Saw some combat. Abuse of alcohol and drugs stepped up.
Stateside, fell through cracks, homeless, live in Rehab. My former
counselors, great people, became my best friends. Two were Jewish, and
excuse me, we had that cultural bonding that can never exist with any
"goy" person. I picked up again, the progression was rapid, blackouts
and all that goes with blackouts, finally was arrested for dui when
clutch on my vehicle failed on a main street large city 1:30AM. I was
totally intoxicated.
Beginning of the end, into recovery via the
County Detox Centers. An employee, my age then 29, extended the hand
and my first "Young Peoples" meeting I was greeted at the door by Mel
F. and found out first I was not the only Jewish Alcoholic in the
world and in the meeting not the only one that had suffered and to
shut up, listen and keep coming back. Soon I got into service and
became very active there in New England and the next years in New York
City. No Internet, online, IM then, we were very relationship-oriented
and had long meetings after the meetings and yeah we took each others
inventory when required, and yeah we kicked ass or I had my ass kicked
(with tough love) when it was due, and then another day of sobriety
and O gotta lotta lotta days.
In my 3rd and 5th years of sobriety,
started to experience depression, anxiety, fears and manic episodes. Was
first told by a psychologist, also an AA member,
I "did not require"
any meds, to "step up" on my meetings, pray etc.
That "AA" so-called
mental health professional gave me bad advice.
Finally after 2
hospitalizations, homeless, worth nothing to nobody game again, found
a mentor working in Mental Health field — also an AA member, but from
the 20th Century — got me to NY Hospital, then to the Mental Health
Clinic downtowns. My advice from this AA mentor (No kiddies I AIN'T GOT
NO "spawnsah"): DO NOT TELL OTHERS IN AA MEETINGS YOU ARE TAKING
PRESCRIBED MEDS. However I told one "friend" who spread it around.
Except for a few members, two of them Atheists by the way, was shunned
by old home groups, sat in the back, they patted me on the shoulder
"this too shall pass" Well, I got better day by day, living in a
cubicle, Bowery Residence Program.
Once had "sponsored" many of those
guys, now was one of em and began with help of my psychologist, US
Citizen, native of Poland, was a Journalist in Africa many years and I
adopted as my path to recovery "The 16 Steps of Empowerment"
As an amateur historian I also have read as well as the AA BB and 12
and 12, all of the AA Conference approved books and literature, having
volunteered at AA World Services in NYC for a year as a bilingual
liason for Mexican and Central American groups interfacing with World
Services and escorting AA members on visits to the NY office.
Did my first 5th Step with Helen W. who worked many years for a salary
yes, but also in love and service?
Pretty good for a dry drunk, huh, kiddo? I guess you think I ain't got
no ESH to share. I am not sharing, I am renewing my own spirit, and as
well fending off you "evil spirits" who started all this nonsense when
I receive a very humiliating and idiotic response on this group from a
troll, who could or could not be sober who hides behind a puter.
Why I dished it out, stirring up the shit.. you asked for it and you got it!!!!
If someone criticizes Alcoholics Anonymous, answer:
"People who attack A.A. are just stupid A.A.-bashers. You don't have
to pay any attention to what A.A.-bashers say because they are just
stupid A.A.-bashers."
"You're just a dry drunk with a resentment..."
And when sober old-timers complain about A.A. misbehavior, say "You're
just a bleeding deacon..."
Notice that name-calling allows you to actually define your
opponent, based on just a few facts, or even on no facts whatsoever.
That's why I kicked butt virtually, if you can dish it out you'd
better be able to take it, cuz in both the recovery and real worlds
you got no guarantees.
I don't care what you think, what your "program" is, whether you pray
or not..I don't care if you live or die, drink or drug, your choice
really. Don't care if you 15 "spansaws" and go to 4 meetings a day, I
was suggested, never TOLD, to stop going to so many meetings and go to
work!!!!
And as well, I do love to go back and browse from time to time and
read sections of the orange-papers.info/ to get a fair and balanced
opposing viewpoint:
"Right now your mind is insane, and you can't tell the truth from
the falsehood."
"You are just looking for an excuse to drink."
"You are angry."
"You have a 'resentment'."
"You don't understand A.A.."
"You don't understand A.A. spirituality because you are an atheist."
"You don't understand A.A. spirituality because you are a Christian."
"You don't understand A.A. spirituality because you aren't a
member of A.A.."
"You think you know everything."
"We don't have to listen to you because you don't have any
credentials — you aren't a doctor or a professor. You don't know what
you are talking about."
"We don't have to listen to you — you are just a doctor. A.A. knows
much more than all of the doctors and priests and ministers and
psychiatrists that we went to for so many years." (The Big Book, 3rd
Edition, page 473.)
"You think you are smarter than other alcoholics."
"You are diseased and in denial if you criticize Alcoholics Anonymous."
"You just don't want to quit drinking."
"Screw you! What do you know about sobriety?"
"You aren't qualified to have an opinion of A.A. yet, because you
don't have enough years of sobriety." (And if you do have enough
years, then "You are just a Bleeding Deacon.")
"your obviously not equiped to give any advice." (sic.)
"Those critics are often pushing inaccurate information or
unintentionally pushing misinformation."
"You are angry, so we don't have to listen to you."
"Somebody injured you; that's why you spend so much time criticizing
Alcoholics Anonymous."
"Your posts and your website lead me to wonder why you spend so much
energy on this. Don't you have anything better to do than run down a
group that has helped many, many people?." (Hint: That line was not
about me; it was aimed at Rebecca Fransway in the newsgroup
alt.recovery.from-12-Steps, Feb. 8, 2001.)
"You are just obsessed with proving Alcoholics Anonymous wrong."
"You are a chronic slipper who could not grasp AA at all."
"You will relapse soon."
"You will fall off of the wagon soon."
"Nobody can have as many resentments as you have and not drink again."
"Are you still drunk? Anybody with such a chip on their shoulder
will go back out again."
"You are one of the people who couldn't work the program."
"You are not really committed to sobriety."
"Your arguments are more and more like rants. Increasingly
technicoloured ones."
"You don't care how many alcoholics you kill by saying that A.A.
doesn't work."
"You are doing a great disservice to those seeking sobriety."
"You are doing great harm to alcoholics."
"You are causing alcoholics to relapse."
"You are hurting alcoholics by driving them away from
Alcoholics Anonymous."
"Have you saved any lives lately, or do you just sit here and bitch
about AA?"
"That orange guy is getting really REALLY boring."
"Your anger towards A.A. can't be doing you any good."
"You spent a lot of time trying to figure out why AA didn't work for
you. Which is really just a way of justifying your drinking."
"You've only paused your drinking, and never genuinely stopped."
"You must be an agnostic or an atheist if you object to the
wonderful spirituality of Alcoholics Anonymous."
"And I'll bet that you molest little girls when the moon gets full, too
To end this epistle, YOU the detractors of course, you know far more
about your own sobriety and path to recovery than I do and vice versa.
Talk is cheap, I've walked the walk as best I could over the years and
since 1984 have been taking prescribed meds to manage my psychiatric
disorders, to cope and to hope. I neither hide in recovery rooms and
do not shy away from daily challenges presented by living in an often
insane real world. It is all about coping without illegal drugs or
booze or unprescribed pills. To you I am a "bleeding deacon". So be it.
As for prayer, my people have been praying for 5,800 years, I know
when and where and how to Pray!
Some of us had the same problem on the online groups of
"Lamplighters", some of us who fought and are emotionally or
physically crippled or both fighting for your freedom to respond to me
and vice versa. Most were Ex Pat US Vets, all are long gone from
"Lamps" and the Thumper moderators there.
The only "meetings" I wish to attend when in USA are the "Town Hall"
meetings and the Tea Parties and I will be in DC in spirit on 9/12.
If any of you are "experts" then go ahead and psychoanalyze me, and
others who feel and think like me, we are legion, we are recovering
alkies, addicts, gamblers, eating disorders, bipolar, PTSD, etc. and
also trusted "normie" friends who have EARNED our respect. I have been
spit on before, NEVER AGAIN: AA or not matters nothing to me, the
content of your character.
To end, ain't I some pathetic dry drunk??????? Shit, got a new handle!!!!!
HAR HAR HAR HAR HAR HAR LOL
Sending lotssa copies o this out??..
In response to:
Is it possible that you're a dry drunk?....just asking....Your
comments seem to suggest that....
Posted by henry on September 1, 2009 — Tuesday — 7:05 PM
[Reply to this]
The Real Punk Friends in Recovery Together!
Jeff, Recovery Punk.
" i dont kick anyone off but why the fuck are you so bitter? you
commented here bro and got nasty. i appreciate your service to our
country but i dont see your point. what does it matter? lots of people
serve and mant died, that doesnt give one the right to be an asshole
to people they dont know. i dont care how much time you have or who
your sponsor is or who spoke where, your recovery is what you make of
is and what i see is an angry man. going from your posts you have
nothing i want brother so keep your recovery and however many years
you have.
by the way, my sponsor has 42 years of recovery. he was one of the
founders of NA in the washington dc area. he is also a well respected
christian minister but i dont throw that around because im not my
sponsor. he only teaches me, the old way. so before you judge others
take a good look at self.
again, nobody gets kicked off this page for getting nasty with me. i
can take it. get nasty with others and thats a different story."
Posted by (moderator) The Real Punk Friends in Recovery Together! on
September 1,
2009
Finally Agent Orange?? Big Wow!!! Or "Whoopee do" as Archie Bunker used
to say on TV in "my day"
Jeez am sober today.
"Dry Drunk who is Going to Die Lonely, Bitter Miserable" (Why do I
still have lots of friends??????????? ex alkies, addicts, social and
moderate drinkers, those who never drank at all..human beings)
Oh also by the way advise newcomers to avoid the 12 Step on line
Lamplighters User Group, if AA is the only resource available to them,
then at least f2f look into their eyes and read their body language,
if the group is either psychobabblers or overtly 'religious' at least
look for some individual members who will give support. Avoid those
wishing to sponsor you right away and if you are an attractive young
female you'll have "AA men" crawling all over you! If old and
unattractive they will hand you some literature and tell ya "keep
coming back"
Signing off... bitter old dry drunk with a lot of ESH.
Hello "Salvador",
Thanks for the letter. It says a lot. Above all, congratulations on
making it. Still making it, in spite of everything.
When you come right down to it, we are still here.
I wish I could tell you that the anger will just fade out and go away
after a while, but I'm still fighting with old angers too. I'm still pissed off
at what was done to me 40 or 50 years ago. All I can do now is refuse to allow
old angers to dominate my life. When I find myself feeling anger and rage over
those old things, I just change the subject (in my head), and turn my
attention to something that is good, right here, right now, in "real world".
It's a struggle. It's a battle. But it's worth winning, I think.
I don't want to waste any more time being angry about old history
that I cannot change.
That doesn't mean that I will ever forget. That is impossible. But I don't want
to let that old garbage waste any more of my time. Upwards and onwards.
Have a good day, and a good life.
== Orange
P.S.: I just looked up that reference to "16 Steps" at
addictioninfo.org, and I see that
it is Charlotte Kasl. Yes, she's really good. I have one of her books in my
"Top 10" reading list,
here.
* orange@orange-papers.info *
* AA and Recovery Cult Debunking *
* http://www.Orange-Papers.org/ *
** If someone has cancer or diabetes or coronary disease,
** we don't use a quack doctor to treat those sick people —
** a quack whose only qualification is that he used to drink
** too much alcohol or take too many drugs, and who is now
** a member of a cult religion. But with the so-called
** "disease" of alcoholism, the standard treatment is
** to have former alcoholics or dopers dispensing their
** platitudes and slogans, and insisting that God is the cure.
Tuesday, 17 November 2009: A couple of notes:
Well, another month has gone by, and another year, and it's autumn
again, and the goslings have all grown up, and you have to look closely
to tell them from their parents.
But we are still going throught the collection of pictures from last spring:
May 15, 2009, Friday: Day 15, continued:
Carmen's family
The father is the adult in the center of the picture, and the mother is to the right.
It's really hard to tell which one is Carmen in this picture, but I'd guess it's the
gosling right beside the father. Notice how she has a smaller head than the others,
and the top of her head is darker than the others. And her face just looks like
Carmen.
And it's not an optical illusion — they are all really looking
at me — wondering if I brought munchies for them. (I did.)
May 16, 2009, Saturday: Day 16
Carmen's family
The mother is sitting down while the father stands guard. It looks like Carmen is the
gosling nestled against the mother's side.
And now I just had another couple of anniversaries, again. Back in October,
I got 9 years off of drugs and alcohol, and just a few days ago, 9 years off of cigarettes
and tobacco. It feels good. What a relief to not be hungover or coughing.
And an interesting note: A Firefox plug-in called "Xmarks" is useful for
synchronizing your bookmarks between computers. Like it will combine your
bookmarks from your home computer and your laptop, so that the same things
are accessible from both machines. Well, I signed up for it, and discovered
that they rated the Orange Papers as number 8 in the category called
"Serious". And it's like 30th in "AA", 38th in the category of Addiction,
and #41 in Cults.
I guess they do that by tallying people's bookmarks.
I'm not sure what that amounts to, or how they judge, but it's interesting,
and flattering.
So the Orange Papers got this little graphic for being a "Top 10" web site:
Later: One of the Xmarks fellas told me that their rating system is
experimental, and they decided to cancel the category of "Serious".
So O.P. is no longer a "top 10" site. So it goes. What was A. E. Housman's line
about how fleeting fame is? (To an Athlete, Dying Young)
"It withers faster than the rose."
Date: Fri, September 4, 2009 5:16 pm (answered 18 November 2009)
From: "Gary J."
Subject: Your Site Rocks!
Dear Orange,
A friend recently turned me on to your site and I want to thank you for all of
your research and work. My guess is that there must be a number of people out
there dealing with addictions who come across your site while searching the
internet for resources. If you help just one avoid AA then I thank you for a job
well done. I think your papers empower people who are looking for answers and
make them think twice about going to a 12 step group.
I quit drinking two years ago on my own and with the encouragement of friends,
family and a doctor. Happily my doctor does not promote AA and validated my own
belief that people can recover without ever attending a meeting or adopting a
spiritual practice.
Last winter I spoke with a co-worker who had been going to AA for his 90 meetings
in 90 days routine. I told him about my own experience and my reservations about
AA. Apparently he spoke with his sponsor about our conversation and this alone
prompted a phone call to me from the sponsor. The sponsor was angry and accused
me of "interfering with "John's" program" and that I could be responsible for
John leaving AA or having a slip. I was taken aback by this guys audacity in
telling me I should not express my opinion to the man he sponsors. I simply told
him to mind his own business and that I will express my objections to AA at will
and without consequences. He hung up on me. My co-worker is struggling with his
drinking and in my opinion AA is making his life more miserable. I have
encouraged John to read the Orange Papers and to try some of the alternatives.
Thanks again for your wonderful website and give those sweet geese some bread for me.
Sincerely,
Gary
Hello Gary,
Thank you for the letter and the compliments. And congratulations on your sobriety
and recovery. And yes, the do-it-yourselfers are the majority of the successful
sober people, so you have every right to talk to your friend about what works,
and what doesn't.
Speaking of which, I hope your friend is doing well. I should point to the list
of discussions that we have had about what works, and what has helped people,
here.
Perhaps he can find some useful information there.
Have a good day.
== Orange
* orange@orange-papers.info *
* AA and Recovery Cult Debunking *
* http://www.Orange-Papers.org/ *
** Music I heard with you was more than music,
** And bread I broke with you was more than bread.
** == Conrad Aiken (1889- ), Music I Heard with You, 1914.
Date: Fri, September 4, 2009 10:14 pm (answered 18 November 2009)
From: Darin K
Subject: WOW!!!
Hey Orangie!
I must say my eyes have been opened! You must be a disillusioned and
frightened untreated addict/alcoholic.
You have expended a lot of energy to persuade yourself in your
endeavor, I hope that works for you.
Take it easy brother...
Darin K
You have a good day too, Darin.
== Orange
* orange@orange-papers.info *
* AA and Recovery Cult Debunking *
* http://www.Orange-Papers.org/ *
** If we don't change our course, we'll end up where we're headed.
** == Chinese proverb
Date: Sat, September 5, 2009 8:31 pm (answered 18 November 2009)
From: "Richard A"
Subject: Is this stiil run by Apple?
Aloha,
I remember talking to someone calling themselves Apple a long time ago on 12
step free. I'm the guy who eventually had his story published in 12 Step
horror stories put together by Rebecca Fransway. My story was "One man's
journey through the door marked exit".
It is good to see the Orange Papers site is still running.
Just wanted to say hi and thanks in case you are still running the site.
Mahalo
Richard
Hi Richard,
Thanks for the note.
And thanks for the story in Rebecca Fransway's book "AA Horror Stories".
I read that book many years ago, and it was more fuel for the fire
(my internal fire, that is).
You are right about the Apple—AA-Deprogramming connection, but I'm not Apple,
and Apple never ran the Orange Papers web site. Back in 2000 and 2001, when I was
just starting out, Apple ran the web site called AAdeprogramming.com.
I sent the original
versions of some of my essays to her, and she put them online.
I chose the name "Orange" so that we could
joke about mixing apples and oranges.
Apple retired from the scene, and I kept on writing, so my stuff evolved into a
web site of its own.
* orange@orange-papers.info *
* AA and Recovery Cult Debunking *
* http://www.Orange-Papers.org/ *
** Underage binge drinking occurs more frequently if child
** maltreatment such as neglect, physical and sexual abuse is
** experienced, U.S. researchers said.
** == UPI, March 4, 2009
Date: Sun, September 6, 2009 2:30 pm (answered 18 November 2009)
From: istj
Subject: 12 things to do at 12-Step Meetings (Wherever you are forced to go to one!)
istj has forwarded you this craigslist.org posting.
12 things to do at 12-Step Meetings
Since most attendees at a 12-Step meeting are NOT there voluntarily (they need to
get some "proof of attendance card" signed!), I am offering THESE suggestions for
how to pass the time away, and maybe get that pesky "proof of attendance card"
signed a little faster too. . . .
1.) Attend the meeting with a surgical mask on, and when asked, explain, "I hear
there is a disease called "alcoholism/addiction" in here, and I don't want to catch
it!"
2.) Offer a LOUD running commentary as the meeting leader begins the "opening rituals"
3.) If asked to leave, before getting your card signed, threaten to destroy the
coffee pot, and its contents, AND take the coffee!
4.) Repeatedly ask, "Are we there yet"?
5.) Inform those that have stopped drinking/using that they are hereby EXPELLED from
this and all future 12-Step meetings, as they no longer have a "desire to stop
drinking/using" (especially if they do not drink/use anymore!).
6.) Offer to set up a "town hall meeting" between the 12-Steps and the 12-traditions!
7.) Ask how many "Big Book's" it takes to make a good bonfire.
8.) Bring along your favorite intoxicating/impairing substance, and offer to share it with those having a "birthday"
9.) In NA meetings-"leave behind"/drop on the floor some cellophane wrapped rock
salt, with a clean, unused needle nearby.
10.) Pass out copies of federal court decisions that make it clear: a.) 12-Step
groups are religious, b.) you don't have to attend ONLY those, and c.) those
requiring 12-Step meeting attendance can be individually sued for their coercion.
11.) Ask questions! LOTS of questions! Demand specific, detailed answers (see #6!)
12.) Offer to do the "Closing Prayer" with: "Holy Satan, prince of darkness, bless
this assemblage, and stop us from drinking/using in your holy name! We all accept
thy's serenity and will"!
BE VERY SERIOUS HERE!
Instead of ending
with "Keep Coming Back"! Try: "GET THE FUCK OUT, LOSERS"!
Location: Wherever you are forced to go to one!
Original URL: http://losangeles.craigslist.org/sgv/rnr/1360329668.html
Hi istj,
Thanks for the laugh. And you have a good day too.
== Orange
* orange@orange-papers.info *
* AA and Recovery Cult Debunking *
* http://www.Orange-Papers.org/ *
** Down one road lies disaster, down the other utter catastrophe.
** Let us hope we have the wisdom to choose wisely.
** == Woody Allen
Date: Sun, September 6, 2009 8:52 pm
From: "George C."
Subject: Some comments about your site
Hi Orange, you've got a lot of great information on your site.
I would like to suggest another question for your "Cult Test Questions"
page:
Can you get up and walk out of the room?
If the answer to the above question is "yes", then I'm sorry, it is not a
cult. Cults control people. If someone who is free to leave at any time
ends up controlled, that is the fault of the individual, not the particular
philosophy.
Hello ,
Thanks for the letter.
Sorry, but being kept prisoner in a room is not a standard cult characteristic.
Very, very few cults kept their people prisoners in an armed camp
like how Jim Jones's People's Temple did.
In most cults, the people come and go as they please. People are free to get up and
walk out of Scientology, the Moonies, Hari Krishnas, and Jehovah's Witnesses,
and yet those things are all very much cults.
The thing is, those people are not
mentally free to leave. They are victims of indoctrination and phobia
induction that makes them believe that they will die, or lose their
ticket to Heaven, or something
horrible will happen to them if they leave the cult. With Alcoholics Anonymous,
it is of course, "If you leave A.A., your fate is jails, institutions, or death."
Cults do things like guilt induction, indoctrination, deceptive recruiting,
phobia induction, teaching irrational dogma, constant put-downs, confession
sessions, enemy-making, isolation, two levels of information,
and loaded language. A.A. does all of those things.
See
the Cult Test
for a list of 100 standard cult characteristics.
A recent correspondent who was in A.A. for many years said that she rated A.A. on
that test and that A.A. was guilty of 97 out of the hundred.
I would like to call your attention to the following article, which I hope
you will like:
I think this article is spot on: Any attempt to use AA as a professional
treatment for alcoholism is wrong-headed, maybe criminal, and further is
prohibited by AA doctrine. I don't know who these charlatans are that abuse
AA philosophy, but you are right to call them on it.
I especially like the description of AA from the article:
12-step philosophy is not psychotherapy, counseling, or treatment for
substance abuse, or a rigorously researched model of applied psychology and
should not be utilized for such purposes. Twelve Step philosophy is just
that; a system of loosely organized beliefs which serve to bring together
lay people in a self-help/mutual-aid group, free of charge and as an
alternative to professional intervention. As such, it cannot properly be
professionalized, systematized, advertised, or engaged in for financial
profit.
Once again, spot-on. AA is a philosophy at the service of lay
adherents. Considered
as such, it is as good a philosophy as any, and it was never intended — in
fact, was specifically prohibited — from being presented as anything else. From
the BB, Forward to the First Edition:
We would like it understood that our alcoholic work is an avocation.
The author there, Cliff Walker, the owner of the Positive Atheism
web site, was being too nice.
Yes, you can call
Buchmanism — the real A.A. religion
— a "philosophy" if you
wish, but it is hardly just a service organization. The core of Buchman's
religion is the belief that the best life consists of being a
slave of a "Higher Power".
Every day, you conduct a séance and hear "the Voice of God", supposedly
telling you what to do, and giving you the power to carry out the orders of
the voices in your head. That is A.A. Step 11.
Buchman also declared that you were too stupid to think for yourself,
so you should have a sponsor or Führer doing your thinking for you,
and telling you what to do.
And Buchman declared that you are so flawed that you cannot ever be
cured or fixed — you have been "defeated by sin"
(like "powerless over alcohol") — and
the only thing you can do with your life is
surrender to a "Higher Power" and hope that "Higher Power" makes
you into a good little puppet.
Does any of that sound familiar? It should, because it's in the 12 Steps.
And then it gets worse. While a few people do go to A.A. meetings to be of service,
lots more do not. Others use A.A. as a meat market, to pick up on the new women
who show up. See the
Midtown Group for much more on that.
And then there are the old-timer ego-trippers, enjoying being a big frog in a small
pond. And then there are the people who are just afraid to leave, because they have
been told that they will die if they do. And then there
are the people who are obsessed with A.A., and who have to go to one or two or three A.A. meetings
per day or else they freak out. And then there are the sponsors, looking for new
slaves. And then there are the neurotics and the psychotics and the religious fanatics.
And then there are the criminals who are forced to be there by the courts and parole officers.
And on and on.
That is not a good crowd to ask for life advice.
Of course I totally agree that Buchmanism should not be packaged and sold as
a quack cure for alcoholism and addictions.
The treatment centers that sell 12-Step programs as a cure
for drug and alcohol problems should get sued out of
existence, and put in prison for fraud and criminally negligent homocide.
By the way, in spite of the fact that Bill Wilson wrote in the Big Book that
"We would like it understood that our alcoholic work is an avocation",
he actually became a millionaire by selling it. He never had to work a straight
job again. (It was just the other people who weren't supposed to get a share
of the money.)
In any case, you throw around that "cult" insult a lot, and I do not think
you are justified in doing so. AA does no recruiting, charges no dues, and
never pursues people who leave the fellowship. By your metrics, the local
elementary school is more of a cult than AA. I agree completely with your
criticism as it applies to professional practitioners.
However, I think
that your criticism of AA overall is not helpful, in that it gives the
alcoholic a very authoritative-appearing excuse to avoid AA and continue
drinking. *"See? AA is a cult! I can't get involved in that!"*
I think I am very justified in calling A.A. a cult. Again, read
the Cult Test
and see the list of standard cult characteristics.
And then compare that list to Alcoholics Anonymous.
Your claim that the local school is a cult is based on a gross misunderstanding
of what a cult is and how they work.
You obviously have not bothered to actually read "my metrics", or else
you quickly forgot them.
And once again, there is the veiled accusation that I am hurting alcoholics by telling
the truth about A.A., and maybe discouraging someone from going to Alcoholics
Anonymous. That is such a
standard A.A. accusation.
But I get a lot of letters from other people who say that I helped them by telling the truth.
On your site, you misuse
the Harvard study
repeatedly, thus: "80% of all
alcoholics who quit do so on their own." That statement implies a blatant
falsehood, one that you, with all of your emphasis on evidence, should be
ashamed to repeat. In fact, as your statistics show, most alcoholics do not
quit, but rather *die of their disease*. The truth of the matter puts quite
a different moral emphasis on your repeated misrepresentation of the facts.
What blatant falsehood? Now you know more about medicine than the Harvard Medical School?
What are your sources of information? Let's see the hard evidence.
Where do you get the idea that the Harvard Medical School is wrong about addictions?
And "my statistics" do not show that most alcoholics die
of "the disease". Where? What are you supposedly quoting?
I said that slightly more than 50% of the alcoholics recover,
and 80% of those recovered people did
it alone, on their own. And that's just what the Harvard Mental Health Letter said.
Since you seem to think that A.A. cures alcoholics, let's see the facts. Let's see
some numbers. Once again, it's time for the question that A.A. members have never
answered honestly:
What is the REAL A.A. success rate?
Out of each 1000 newcomers to A.A., how many will pick up a one-year
sobriety medallion a year later?
And how many will get their 2-year, and 5-year, and 10-year coins?
How about 11 years and 21 years?
Finally, I have read your page on "The Lizard Brain Addiction Monster", and
I must say that, from my own perspective, I have never read such a risible
load of claptrap in my life. I am delighted that such nonsense worked for
you, but it never would have worked for me, and your notion that this
approach is more rational or workable than the AA approach is simply
unsupportable and merely your own prejudice talking.
Obviously, listening to your own mind, and recognizing thoughts, is not your strong suit.
But other people who do "get it" have said that the knowledge was a big help
to them in staying sober.
Perhaps my opinion makes you consider me a "sheep". Perhaps you are right,
but I have no need to argue the point. In any case, I have found a lot of
value in AA, certainly no harm, and I resent the fact that you call me a
cultist merely because of my religious beliefs. Your view is prejudiced,
and in my opinion, more likely to harm alcoholics than help.
Sorry if your feelings are hurt by my calling A.A. a cult, but it's the truth.
And once again, there is the veiled accusation that I am hurting alcoholics by telling
the truth about A.A.
Thank you for your time and have a great day.
P.S. — If you care to respond on your site, I would appreciate a link.
You have a good day too.
== Orange
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* AA and Recovery Cult Debunking *
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** You can say that some groups are cults. LaRouche's bunch,
** Moonies, Scientology, Heaven's Gate, etc. There are
** published scales to measure how much some group is a cult.
** == Keith Henson
Date: Wed, September 9, 2009 7:32 pm (answered 19 November 2009)
From: raymond
Subject: EMDR
Hi Terry,
the letter you received from Pete
on Sat, August 22 that claims a "modern
outlook on addictions" is
EMDR (eye movement desensitization and reprocessing):
Thanks for the tip. I've only read a little bit of that so far, but I'm getting
the impression that they are selling the same idea as Scientology does: that memories
of old injuries cause insanity and limit your powers and abilities, and if
your old memories are somehow "processed" so that you are desensitized
to them, then you will become something greater.
That's quite an assumption. Personally, I've never found dwelling on old negative
memories to be beneficial.
Have a good day.
== Orange
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** Happiness is nothing more than good health and a bad memory.
** == Albert Schweitzer (1875—1965)
Date: Wed, September 9, 2009 8:28 pm (answered 20 November 2009)
From: raymond S.
Subject: the Jay LeB.letters
Hi Terry,
I have Fingarette's book here in front of me. Chapter 2 is titled "Can Alcoholics
Control their Drinking". He cites:
Merry, "The 'Loss of Control' Myth" (1966)
Heather and Robertson, Controlled Drinking (1981)
Donovan and Marlatt, "Assessment of Expectancies and Behavior Associated with Alcohol Consumption" (1980)
as disproving the myth.
The studies were Mello and Mendelson, "Drinking Patterns During Work-contingent and
Non-contingent Alcohol Acquisition (1972); Mendelson, "Experimentally Induced
Chronic Intoxication and Withdrawal in Alcoholics" (1964)
He also says to see:
Gottheil et al., "Fixed-Interval Drinking Decisions" (1972); Cohen et al.
"Alcoholism: Controlled Drinking and Incentives for Abstinence" (1971a) and
"Moderate Drinking by Chronic Alcoholics" (1971b)
Others are mentioned and cited, these seem to be the big guns.
Ray S.
Hi again, Ray,
Thanks for the information. I find it rather amazing how the powers that be
can ignore such findings for so long, and continue to parrot the same old
"powerless over alcohol" fairy tale.
I just got Fingarette's book through an inter-library loan. And now I have to read
it, along with all of the other things on my reading list.
Date: Thu, September 10, 2009 7:17 am (answered 20 November 2009)
From: raymond S.
Subject: Don't drink that marshmallow
Another study on delayed gratification.
Don't drink that marshmallow
The marshmallow experiments are famous by now, thanks in large part to
Daniel Goleman's Emotional Intelligence books, and their relevance to
addiction seems obvious. In 1968, Stanford psychology prof Walter
Mischel presented four-year olds with a marshmallow and the choice: Eat
it now, or wait 15 minutes and get two. The kids who could delay the
gratification ended up, a decade and more later, with higher SAT
scores, higher graduation rates, better jobs — in short, twice as many
of the marshmallows life had to offer.
It was
often believed that the kids who could delay gratification did so
thanks to more "will power." Mischel — according to a helpful and
informative summary in this week's New Yorker,
by Jonah Lehrer — analyzed what this "will power" really consisted of.
He paid very careful attention to what went through the delaying kids'
minds as they resisted the bait. They succeeded because they had
methods of distracting their minds from the lure. They covered their
eyes, or played hide-and-seek under the desk, or sang songs. "Their
desire wasn't defeated — it was merely forgotten." The key, Mischel
found, was not to resist the marshmallow — that didn't work — but to
avoid thinking about it.
In further
experiments, Mischel found that children could be taught cognitive
tricks that helped them distract themselves. "Even reducing the
intensity of the temptation by pretending that the marshmallow was only
a picture of a marshmallow or that the marshmallow was really a cloud
worked for some children."
Mischel and other
researchers Lehrer quotes are skeptical of finding a genetic basis for
the ability to delay gratification. "Too many genes are involved in
even the simplest aspects of personality. "The cutting edge of research
lies in classroom curricula that teach self-distraction, and in
educating parents to cultivate simple cognitive skills in children."
Says Mischel: "We should give mashmallows to
every kindergartner... We should say, 'You see this marshmallow — You
don't have to eat it. You can wait. Here's how.'"
Wow. "Cognitive tricks". It looks like cognitive behavioral therapy strikes again.
The obvious implication is that some alcoholics could be taught similar cognitive
tricks to delay or avoid drinking, or more particularly, excessive drinking and drunkenness.
Thanks again for the input, and have a good day.
== Orange
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** "The rule is, jam tomorrow and jam yesterday — but never jam today."
** == Lewis Carroll (English Logician, Mathematician, Photographer and
** Novelist, especially remembered for Alice's Adventures in Wonderland.
** 1832-1898)
Date: Wed, September 9, 2009 7:00 am (answered 21 November 2009)
From: "Gary B."
Subject: Regarding The British Secret Service (MI5) investigating
The Oxford Group/Moral Re-Armament during WWII...
Hi Orange
Re: The British Secret Service (MI5) investigating The Oxford Group/Moral
Re-Armament during WWII...
Wow, seems like the British government really took quite an interest in the
pro-Nazi stance of the Oxford Group!
Did you know about this?
Best regards
Gary
Hi Gary,
Thanks for the link. No, I didn't know about that. That is very interesting. Now I'd like to
get my hands on the whole report. Perhaps some British citizens know how to get documents from
their government?
Have a good day.
== Orange
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* AA and Recovery Cult Debunking *
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** Today Christians ... stand at the head of [this country]...
** I pledge that I never will tie myself to parties who want to destroy
** Christianity .. We want to fill our culture again with the Christian
** spirit ... We want to burn out all the recent immoral developments
** in literature, in the theater, and in the press — in short, we want
** to burn out the poison of immorality which has entered into our
** whole life and culture as a result of liberal excess during the
** past ... (few) years.
** == The Speeches of Adolph Hitler, 1922-1939, Vol. 1, pg. 871-872
** (London, Oxford University Press, 1942)